The Dinner Meltdown-Mine

So we are into the second full week of school. 

I am not back into the "right body clock". 

The toilet overflowed into the kitchen and also into the basement-onto the baby paraphernalia stored down there.

Had to make a weekday run to Target with both boys (who thankfully were really good since I let them bring their wallets and buy something).

I am totally craving tons of chocolate-and not supposed to eat too much since I am doing Weight Watchers to try and get to a healthier weight.

So when the boys protested dinner....I went into a 2 minute lecture about how I was gonna send them to bed, or take their new toys back, if they didn't stop fighting me RIGHT NOW and go eat.  And really eat, not 2 bites and call it done.

Now, I know that "losing it" this way isn't that "bad".  It could have been much worse.  But I still just didn't like myself for a minute.  Did I mention that I wanted to yell at my hubby for not telling me the toilet was going to overflow into the basement? And it is his birthday today! 

And I am trying to potty train the 3 year old as he starts preschool in 6 days! 



Can we say Mommy is on overload?  The SPD kiddo had a rough first week back and took a mental health day on Friday (after vomiting Thursday night-and was TOTALLY fine the next day).  We considered holding off the 4 full days for a while, but have decided to 'stay the course' for now. 

Mommy needs to take some deep breaths, go to bed early, and relax.  It will all work itself.

When we disagree

So the boy isn't dealing with the new school year as well as we had hoped, but better than last year.  We went from 1/2 day Kindergarten, to full day Kindergarten.  His teacher suggested that maybe we back off 4 full days (he is 1/2 day on Friday's due to our OT time), to maybe just 2 or 3 for couple of weeks. I tend to agree.

His father isn't on board with this though.   Now before you start thinking this is gonna be one of those "mommy the gate-keeper bashes daddy" let me tell you, this isn't one of those!  I love my husband and he is an amazing dad.  I value his input and being with me for nearly every conference that we have had for the boy. 

So what do you do?  There are many options available to me.  I can override him and just do what I think is best.  I can just go with his option.  Or we can talk about it; give it a rest; pray about it; and then talk some more.  Right now we are on option #3.  We have talked about it, and we both have valid reasons for our points of view.  We aren't at compromise stage yet, so we are thinking some more and praying.  At some point soon we will "reconvene" and discuss again to see if either has shifted their point.

So what's my point here?  My husband is a powerful ally in this.  I very much value his thoughts and the fact he is willing to go with me and be involved with our sons is best for all of us in the long run!  If I override him, he will stop giving his opinion.  He will stop being so involved because I will be acting as if I don't need him.  When in reality there is nothing further from the truth!  God created 2 parents for a reason, balance.  My boys need need that balance!

Pattern for Weighted Blankets

This is the exact same pattern I used for my boys' blankets.  Someone kindly spelled it all out and took pictures :)

Spreading the word

I was given the gift to share my knowledge of SPD with over 80 Early Childhood Professionals today!  :)  Shared the "this is what SPD is" side along with the "here is what you can do to help these kids" side.  So far, I have heard positive feedback.  It's always hard to put yourself out there, as someone might reject you and what you are saying.  Though I know that all good things involve some sort of risk.  If nothing else 80 more people are talking about it and have some great resources to look up when they have questions about SPD!